Wednesday, May 30, 2012

Let Your Kids Be Kids :)

My stylist,  had a baby boy a few months ago and was discussing with me all the advice she was getting from other Mothers about the right thing to do for her baby.       She told me because her baby was sitting at six months one lady suggested that she buy a potty for her daughter to sit on to get her used to it early. What is the flipping rush!! Why is everyone in such a hurry for their kids to grow up?  I look at my almost 31- year- old son and my 29- year- old daughter and it seems like only yesterday I was cradling them in my arms. I was so stressed about doing the right thing for them that I did not take the time to really enjoy my children.

I vow that this time I will enjoy every minute with my youngest son. He doesn’t seem like he is in too much of a hurry to grow up and that is just fine with me. He is perfectly happy letting me cuddle him once in awhile.I try not to worry him about what he will face as a young adult.

 Makes me wonder why some parents are already planning what college their children will attend when their child is only four- years- old. Plenty of time for that and who is to say that their child will even want to go to college. Are we trying to realize our own dreams through our children? It is just my own humble opinion, but I say let your kids be kids for as long as they can. Enjoy every moment because it will be over in a blink of an eye and you will look back and wonder where did the time go?

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Monday, May 28, 2012

How Parents Can Help End Bullying!!!

My twenty-year-old daughter shared some of her writing with me a few weeks ago. This is something that doesn't happen very often as she is a very private person, so I was really honoured when she let me read her daily journal. She had shared with me recently that she was bullied in school when she was a teenager and she was writing in her journal about how the penalty for bullying, cyber or otherwise, should be MUCH more severe. She was bullied in school because of her Asperger's ( an Autism Spectrum Disorder) so she knew first hand how it can make life a living hell for kids of all ages!

It is happening so often these days - so many young people are taking their lives because living has become too difficult and they just can't carry on. I cannot imagine the pain that these poor kids would have had to endure before they got to that point.

I wonder sometimes why the parents are not held accountable also! I have a hard time believing that they are not aware of what their kids are up to and are just choosing to turn a blind eye. After all bullies show CERTAIN characteristics that are pretty obvious, such as a lack of empathy. I am not saying every kid who lacks empathy is a bully, but that in itself should be HUGE red flag and something you as a parent or caregiver should talk to your child about. Empathy is something you CAN teach your child and the younger the better. For ideas on how to teach empathy to your children check out and sign up for the free newsletter :)

I will touch more on the importance of empathy in future blogs.

Sunday, May 27, 2012

Self Esteem U Can Draw From :)

Yesterday was an awesome day in soccer history for my fifteen-year old son :) The Green team was short players so he volunteered to step in and cover the goalie spot. He has never played that position before, so it was quite a shock to everyone, when this seemingly shy kid, who prefers to be out of the limelight, literally stepped up to the plate.

 Well, to make a long story short he did an absolutely brilliant job! He stopped over fifteen shots and The Green Team won the game 3-2! It was also our first win of the season, woo hoo!!! All of his team mates wanted to shake his hand afterwards and the parents and even the referee commented on how amazing he was. It was so great for his self esteem and he literally walked a little taller after that.

 We talked about it later that evening and I told him I want you to take this day, revel in it and remember how amazingly -awesome you felt. Revel in it and before you fall asleep tonight live it over and over in your mind. After that store it away in your memory bank, so you can call upon it when you have a day that is not so great - he really liked that idea.

That was my share for the day and something ALL parents and caregivers can teach their children to do too.

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Thursday, May 24, 2012

Do More For Your Child by Doing Less...

While the title of this blog may seem a bit contrary there is a very good reason I have chosen it. Since I am by nature a nurturer, it is engrained in me to do for others. My family is my life and I want to make sure that they are loved and cared for. I am now starting to realize that maybe this is not such a good thing after all. If I do everything for my children how will they ever learn to do it themselves. While I may think I am doing it out of love, I am in fact, doing my children a great disservice.

 How can you help your children become healthy independent adults? One of the most important things you can do is to let them make decisions. Instead of putting out clothes for your child for school every morning let them choose what they want to wear. If they mess up by choosing something inappropriate their peers will let them know big time! If your children are fighting with their siblings, let them deal with it. Instead of rushing in to referee, let them sort it out. Of course you want to stand near by in case it gets violent, but otherwise let them deal with it. It may be difficult at first but you will be pleasantly surprised at the outcome. We can't fight our children's battles when they are adults so let them learn the skills to do it for themselves. The more you allow your children to do on their own, the more capable they will become.

The goal of parenting and part of our mission at KidsGoals is to give your children the tools to become healthy, happy, capable adults - that my friends is the epitome of love :) For more ideas on how to positively parent come by and sign up for our free newsletter!

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Wednesday, May 23, 2012

"Stress Relief 101"

Did you ever notice that when you laugh you feel a whole lot better. You may hold back sometimes from having a really good guffaw because you are worried about what people will think of you, but now research is showing that a good belly laugh can actually alleviate stress, help with depression, lower blood sugar and a myriad of other health benefits.

 I recently read an article from CBS News that talked about all the benefits of laughter read it for yourself at :-) and stop taking yourself so seriously. Have fun with your kids, turn that frown upside down and be a kid yourself without worrying about the repercussions. Visit a playground with your little ones and try out all the playground equipment along with them. Life is too short to be serious all the time, so love and laugh and teach this attitude to your children. Who says we can't all be a kid sometimes and REALLY have fun.

 Our good friend Cicero had the right idea when he said so eloquently "As I approve of a youth that has something of the old man in him, so I am no less pleased with an old man that has something of the youth. He that follows this rule may be old in body, but can never be so in mind."

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Tuesday, May 22, 2012

"Praise" and Children

Positive Parenting Praise
Praising our kids is an essential part of building their self esteem- so it is worth thinking about in a little more depth.
Children are a lot smarter and more perceptive than we realize, so one important part of praise is that it must be HONEST. If you praise your child for a piece of homework that you don't really feel is very good, he will pick up from your tone of voice or your body language that you don't mean it. Save your praise for when you can give it fully and honestly.

Kids don't have the experience that we have and misunderstandings are easy to create. So praise that is SPECIFIC will help your child more than generalizations. Saying that you appreciated your child's help with the chores will mean more to him if you say exactly which bits of what he did were so helpful.
Children have a different perception of time than do adults. Praise is best served warm! When you see your child doing something great - tell him so as soon as you can, and keep your praise TIMELY. On the flip side, beware of giving constant praise when there is no reason for it. Your child will be more motivated if your praise is associated with genuine effort on his part, rather than appearing at random intervals no matter what he does.
Why not watch yourself as you praise your child today and see if you are managing to make your praise:
  • Honest
  • Specific
  • Timely
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Monday, May 21, 2012

Rainy Days and Mondays :)

I woke up early this morning and looked out the window and it is raining and kind of blah. I didn't post yesterday because it was my Mom's 82nd birthday and also the Victoria Day long weekend so and a lot of my family came up for the auspicious occasion. I decided to visit with them and take the day off.

 Even though it is a long weekend I am going to make sure to post today, as I know from experience that if I take too much time off of anything it is hard for me to get back on track again. That is the beauty about goal setting you decide on what you want to accomplish and you follow the steps you need to get to where you want to go - easy peasy lemon squeasy! Check out the goal ladder a fun " goal setting" aid for your children.

Soooo even though it is a rainy day and I would much rather crawl back into bed for a few more hours, I am going to resist the temptation and do a bit of work for the website. After all June is around the corner and I have set a goal to send out the next Newsletter and it's going to be GREAT!!!

So if you haven't signed up for it come by KidsGoals for a visit we would love to see you :) 

Sunday, May 20, 2012

Hey Mom and Dad Look What I can do :)

 The internet just came back on after being down for almost a day and half, due to a broken cable. I felt so lost in the morning when I couldn't sign on and write my blog for the day, It started to become a very positive habit and I actually looked forward to blogging especially since I set a goal for myself to blog on a daily basis.

I just realized today, that when I complete today's post, I will have blogged for nineteen days and on some days, I even blogged twice -  Not too shabby!!! It proves that when you set your mind to do something you really want to do, anything is possible! I know this is just a small goal, but the beauty of accomplishing the smaller goals is that you gain the willpower to try something even more ambitious. Your confidence is boosted and you start to believe in yourself again and in your capabilities.

That is why goal setting is so important for children. I always stress the younger the better and there is a good reason for this, as how a child perceives himself starts very early in life. Each new milestone, such as learning to roll over or crawl, teaches a child about their own capabilities. They may fall over but they try again and again and then one day they actually succeed, but without acknowledgement from others for their persistence it really doesn't mean a lot. Research has shown that even if a child is pleased with his achievement, if he doesn't feel loved and appreciated for his efforts, he may still end up with low self esteem.

As adults we like to be acknowledged by the boss for our hard work or by our spouse if we stick to our diet and lose a few pounds, so why wouldn't a child need the same kind of adulation - something to think about!

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Friday, May 18, 2012

Healthy Snack or Quick Brekkie Idea :)

We at KidsGoals believe it is important for you to try and make the foods that you give your children as healthy as possible. By teaching them at a young age that proper nutrition will help them to grow to their full potential and getting them to try a wide variety of different fruits and vegetables, you will have a better chance of them making smarter food choices as teens and finally as adults. Healthy food does not have to taste bad and by finding more nutritional foods that actually taste good you will prove this to your children. Snacks choices for our kids seems to be a place where we as parents could improve a bit.

Having a teen age boy I know full well that if I don't have something healthy at the ready after school he will find something not so nutritionally-sound to snack on. I know it takes a lot more energy to make something from scratch rather than just out of a box but it is well worth the effort. Processed food is laden with bad fats and high fructose corn syrup, so if possible make them a once in awhile treat, but not a daily habit. See the 80/20 rule! There are a myriad of recipes that are kid friendly as well as nutritionally sound, such as the power bar recipe that follows. Even better get your kids to help make up a batch after school. Kids love to cook with you and it is a perfect time to bond with your children. This also makes a great grab and go breakfast idea when you are running late in the morning :)

 Ingredients (Preheat oven to 350 degrees)
1 1/2 cups rolled oats 1 cup crispy brown rice cereal
 1/4 cup sesame seeds
1 1/2 cups dried chopped apricots
1 1/2 cups raisins or dried cranberries,cherries or other dried fruit
 1/2 cup protein powder ( I use micronized whey protein from the health food store)
 1/2 cup toasted wheat germ
1 cup brown rice syrup(found in most health food stores)
1/4 cup dark brown sugar or coconut sugar
1/2 cup peanut if not allergic, or other nut butter almond especially good
1 1/2 tsp vanilla extract
1/2 tsp cinnamon
1 tsp butter to grease cookie sheet
 Put oats cereal and sesame seeds in a flat pan or cookie sheet with sides and bake until nicely toasted approximately 15 minutes, once mixture cools remove from pan and put aside. Put raisins or other dried fruit choices and wheat germ, and protein powder in a large bowl and mix together with hands or wooden spoon, add toasted oats and sesame seeds and stir until well mixed. Put rice syrup, brown sugar and vanilla in heavy pot over medium heat and bring to boil, reduce heat to low and stir in vanilla and peanut butter or other nut butter. Quickly add to ingredients in bowl and stir together and immediately put on a lightly buttered cookie sheet. Press evenly into pan (wetting your hands will make this a lot easier) work quickly as mixture will set and make it difficult to spread evenly. Chill for at least four hours and then cut into 2x3 inch bars

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Thursday, May 17, 2012

Sugar Makes You Not So Smart :(

I blogged a few days ago about how exercise can actually make you smarter, but apparently a recent UCLA study with rats shows that a high fructose diet can not only make you gain weight, it can also cause memory loss, and impede learning, because it actually causes the brain to slow down.

 "Our study shows that a high-fructose diet harms the brain as well as the body. This is something new," says Fernando Gomez-Pinilla, a professor of neurosurgery at the David Geffen School of Medicine at UCLA and a professor of integrative biology and physiology in the UCLA College of Letters and Science.

  Something to think about for your kids since we are gearing up for the end of the school year meaning the dreaded EXAMS!!! The kind of sugar you should be concerned about is the high fructose corn syrup that food manufacturers seem to be putting into everything these days - so make sure to check those labels!!! Speaklng of Exams drop by and check out our study aids on the so your Kids can learn to work "Smarter not Harder" and while you are there sign up for our free newsletter :)

Wednesday, May 16, 2012

The Power of "Visualization" For Goal Setting!

At KidsGoals we are firm believers in the power of "visualization" to help kids and adults alike to realize their goals. We believe that if your mind's eye can see the prize, you are more likely to achieve your goal. As A.L. Linall, Jr. so aptly put it "Visualization and belief in a pattern of reality, activates the creative power of realization"

An easy exercise you can try if you want to , is to take a picture of an object and find a quiet place and really study the picture for ten minutes. It can be a picture of anything, even a bowl of fruit, or a picture of your family pet. Look at all the different things in the picture and then focus on one aspect of the picture, something specific. Look at the colours, shape and texture of the image and then close your eyes and open your eyes quickly over and over for about 30 seconds. Your mind will not be able to tell whether you are actually looking at the image or if you are imagining it. By practicing this you are teaching your mind to hold an image. If you want to teach your mind how to visualize with words, look at the image and then describe it verbally in as much detail as possible-that way you can develop your mind's ability to visualize with words. Since memories are images, sounds and sensations in your mind you can use your imagination to make up new experiences such as seeing your goal come to fruition. The hard part is keeping the image in your mind long enough so that you will accept it. Remember as with anything, practice makes perfect.

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Tuesday, May 15, 2012

#1 Reason You Don't Achieve The Goals You Set!!!

I just sent a good friend of mine his daily inspirational quote and it gave me a bit of food for thought on what to blog about this morning. I chose the topic of "follow through" and gave the analogy of planting a seed in the ground and just walking away without watering it, making sure it is getting adequate sunshine, fertilizer etc. Now... the chances of that seed growing without a bit of attention are pretty much slim to nothing, so think about that when you set a goal for yourself.

 The number one reason goals never become realized is follow through. We want to achieve a certain goal and we write down our intention and all the steps it takes to get where we want to go and then we get busy with life and well I am sure you know where I am going with this - the goal never gets to see the light of day!!! Follow through WILL get you the results you desire. Here is a quote by a widely respected and successful business women named Mary Kay Ash - the founder of Mary Kay cosmetics, that illustrates this point so beautifully :)

 “Those who are blessed with the most talent don't necessarily outperform everyone else. It's the people with follow-through who excel.”

 When Mary Kay was passed over for a promotion and it was given to a man that she had trained she decided to quit her job and write a book to help women like herself achieve success in business. Well, that book became a plan for her own successful business - the rest as they say is history.

Now Mary Kay would NEVER have become the success that she was had she not followed through with her plan. On that note here is a link on to "How to Overcome Procrastination" So set some goals and most importantly FOLLOW THROUGH with them. Make a plan with small steps to follow so you do not become overwhelmed and you WILL have success!!!  Also remember kids learn best by example so if you show them you have follow through they will follow suit.

Have an awesome Tuesday :)
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Monday, May 14, 2012

Why is it that...?

Yesterday was Mother's Day in North America and it is supposed to be a day when your kids and possibly significant other treats you like the Queen you are. Yes it is a day of rest and possibly even a break from the cooking duties and of course flowers are a must!!! My kids usually tell me in no uncertain terms that it is also a day when I am to do absolutely anything I want but I am not allowed to do any of my usual duties. I was actually quite surprised at how hard it was for me to shut off my "Mother Mode" and just let the laundry sit for a day and not give a care if the dishes were piled in the sink for a few hours. I guess once we become Mothers there is just this need to look after everyone and everything...why is that??? Even though my kids were more than happy to do the chores I still found myself thinking about the beds that were unmade, or the fact that we were running low on clean towels... Anyway, just my thought of the day and also thought it was a good chance to link to an article on "How to Deal with Parenting Stress" so if there are some harried Mom's out there that could use a little TLC for themselves this is the place to get some great tips on how to de-stress and take care of that very important person YOU the caregiver :) Have an awesome Monday and come by and see us at KidsGoals and sign up for our free newsletter :)

Sunday, May 13, 2012

Happy Mother's Day :)

Hey all you amazing Moms out there.

 It is Mother's Day in North America and I am having a bit of a late start today as I languished in bed just a little longer than usual - how awesome was that!!! Anyway, the weather is gorgeous and I have been told by my kids in no uncertain terms I cannot do anything today!!! No worries there, I will follow those orders happily.

 Just an update on yesterdays soccer game. The boys were amazing and were up by two goals in the first half and ended up losing 3-2 Not too shabby!!! It was so good for their morale as everyone keeps reiterating how unfair it is for them but...that did not deter them. Good lesson for all of us when we come across something that seems monumental at the time - perseverance will get you where you want to go - don't EVER give up!!!

Have an Awesome Day!!!
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Saturday, May 12, 2012

It's Supposed to be Fun!!!

Hey all!!

Well it is soccer day to day in beautiful BC and I am seriously debating on whether to go and watch my son's game. Because none of the evaluations of the players from last summer were turned in last year, the teams are extremely unbalanced. One team has most of the high caliber players and they have been annihilating every team that they play. Good for them, but what does that do to the confidence of the other teams that have to play them?

They came up with a plan that after five goals the next goals will not be counted unless the ball is passed five times before the next goal - but...

Any way the point of this is for the boys to be challenged, but not creamed and I wish we could start from square one and rearrange the teams. I know our team will only get better but the other team is pretty "cocky" about how good they are. While confidence is good - cocky, not so good :(

Got to hand it to our boys though they are trying their level best and giving 110% and keeping their heads held high - I guess we can all learn a little lesson from this about just do your best, and feel proud of yourself for not getting frustrated and giving up.

It will be interesting to see as the season unfolds how our boys will do, as coming up against such a formidable opponent can only make them better - all good!!! 
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Wednesday, May 09, 2012

Just a Friendly Reminder

If you haven't already done so, I encourage you to check out the new website!!!  It is much more user friendly and we at KidsGoals want to hear from our readers so feel free to send us an email,  or make a comment- we love to hear from our readers. Don't forget to sign up for the next newsletter which will be coming out this week.

Have an awesome "Goal setting for Children Day"!!!

Tuesday, May 08, 2012

Gearing Up For the Day!

Hello Readers

As I mentioned before in previous blog posts, this blog is slowly going to be phased out and you will be able to access the new and improved blog on the website.

Please come by and look around and sign up for the free KidsGoals newsletter.As always we welcome your comments and suggestions so do not hesitate if there is something you would like to see on the website - we at KidsGoals love to hear from our readers :)

Monday, May 07, 2012

I Have an Attitude of Gratitude!!

I woke up this morning and the sky was blue and the sun was shining and I felt like all was right with my world-what an awesome feeling. I am soooo grateful for all of the help I had getting the website up and running. I have an amazing web guy and his perseverance and dedication made it happen.

I am getting great feed back from some of the readers and getting more likes on face book which is awesome. I have so many great ideas for the upcoming months centred on "goal setting for children" and also for adults. My goal was to get the new site up and running and having accomplished that I am over-the-moon happy!!

So come check us out and sign up for the newsletter which I will be sending out in the next week :)

Happy Parenting - Have you hugged your kids today :)

Getting Great Feedback

Thank you for the wonderful comments about the new website. Please let us know what you would like to see in upcoming articles. We love to hear from our readers:)
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Have an awesome Day!!!

Sunday, May 06, 2012

Check it Out!!

Check out the new the blog will be moving to the new site in the near future.
I am up with the birds this morning it is a gorgeous day and cannot wait to get to work on my labour of love!!

Come by and sign up for the  newsletter and let me know what you think of the new site :)

A Super Moon and a Great Day to Launch

Welcome to the new website. We are finally up and running after a scary technical glitch, but my genius web guy Michael fixed it and we are ready to go. Stop by for a visit - sign up for the free newsletter and leave some feedback about what you think of the new site and what you would like to see in upcoming articles -we love to hear from our readers :)

All is Well!!

Well the glitches have been fixed thanks to my amazing webmaster :) and is now officially launched! Please check us out at Kidsgoals, we would love to hear your feedback about the new site and also if there are any topics you would like us to cover in the near future.

I am so happy to see all is well again and will be checking in from time to time, as this blog will slowly be phased out in the coming month, as we convert to the new blog on the site.

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Saturday, May 05, 2012

The Waiting is the Hardest Part

We have run into a few technical glitches, which we are working on to try and get the new site up and running. I know I have to be patient, but I am starting to feel like an expectant father waiting for his child to be born. No worries it will ALL work out I know - I just have to trust that this is so.

So once again - as soon as I have something to announce I will post the url so you can check it out for yourself
Soooo exciting!!!

Thursday, May 03, 2012

The Count Down Begins!!!

I have so much energy this morning I am almost vibrating!!! What an awesome feeling to feel like you are finally on the right life path. I never thought I would ever feel this way after losing my dear friend and partner in KidsGoals, but here I am and as soon as I get the Okey Dokey from my web guy I will post the link so you can check out my new and improved It will allow me to communicate with my readers, share information on twitter and face book and get the word out about "Goal Setting For Children" Raising Confidence Sons", and all the other great information on the site - so much to share in the coming months...

Have an awesome day Everyone!!!

Wednesday, May 02, 2012

Exciting News!!!!!

Hello Valued Readers and subscribers!
I have been very busy since my last post working on the NEW and IMPROVED website. We are launching in a few days so  stop by for a visit as soon as I post the URL. The parenting blog will also be coming from the website and eventually this blog will be phased out.

If you have been a follower of the website and blog you are aware that Cassie, my dearest friend and partner in the website, passed away suddenly in December 2010 :( After a lot of contemplation I realized that I needed to continue with the website in her honour. It is what she truly would have wanted and I am honoured to do just that. So much exciting news to share about the launch and will keep you posted as we gear up for it.

You can also like us on Face Book and follow us on twitter now and will be able to share articles with your friends and family with a touch of a button. We are also going to offer more competitions in the near future with lots of GREAT PRIZES but you have to sign up for the free newsletter for entry.

So stay tuned for the exciting launch of the new