Thursday, June 22, 2006

Accentuate the Positive Eliminate the Negative

According to scientific research, the average child is told "no'' or told that they cannot do something over 148,000 times before they reach the age of 18. That is a lot of no's. I tend to think of any negative thoughts as planting weeds and if you think of your child's mind as a garden that is a whole lot of weeds!!!

What then can you do as a parent to help your child get rid of the weeds and start planting flowers? Well if you think about all the negatives as being negative programming then we must help our child do a bit of positive programming to undo all the negatives. Although that may sound a bit difficult it really isn't, it just involves repetition. Scientific research has shown that 77% of our thoughts are negative and counterproductive. Since our brains learn by repetition, the more you repeat something the more it becomes ingrained in your psyche. Positive self talk and thinking will not work unless you practice it again and again.

When you catch your child berating themselves teach them to turn those thoughts around. Positive self talk is learned and can become a habit through repetition.

Hoping you and your children have a positive day


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